Mother refuses to force 16, 14, 12, and 3-year-old children to play inside with their introvert cousin, her sister accuses her children of excluding him: ‘My kids don't like to watch TV’

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  • "Aitah for not forcing my kids to play inside with my nephew?"

    I am 38F I have 4 kids ages 16M, 14M, 12M, and 3F. My sister (35F) has one kid age 12M. I also have a brother (30M) whose kids are 4M & 10M.
  • After school every day all of the kids come to my house until their parents get off of work. 3F isn't in preschool yet so she is home all
  • day and 4M does half days preschool I pick him up at 12. I have a little fenced in play area for the babies and spend most of my time there.
  • When the kids all get off the bus I normally have a snack ready and then most of them go outside and find somewhere to play. My
  • kids are pretty feral. 99% of the time they are headed straight for the woods to "the fort". My brother's oldest usually does whatever my kids are up to.
  • The issue is my sister's son. He does not like to be outside and mostly sits on the couch and either watches TV or plays on his
  • phone. Every now and then he will go play with the others by it's rare and he's back inside pretty quickly. He is just not an outside kid.
  • Yesterday my nephew was upset because the others did not want to stay inside and watch a movie with him. He asked them and they all just wanted to go outside.
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  • When my sister came to pick him up he told her the other kids wouldn't watch a movie with him and he didn't want to play what
  • they were playing. So my sister is now upset and said all the other kids are excluding him and I should have made them stay with him instead.
  • I told her my kids don't like to watch TV. They are working on their fort(there was a storm recently so they are rebuilding it) and enjoying being outside. If it
  • were raining or something sure I could have made them come inside but it was a nice day so I'm not forcing 4 boys to stay in the
  • house just because her kid wants to stay in the house. It was his decision not to go with them. They didn't say he couldn't they asked him if he wanted to go.
  • Well now my sister and her husband are both upset and believe I am allowing my children/ nephew to exclude their son.
  • Idk if I'm an ole here but I didn't feel like it was appropriate to force teenage/ preteen boys to sit inside and watch a movie when they wanted to be outside.
  • Fit_Base2089 I love that you encourage your kids to go outside and use their imaginations! Your nephew isn't into that, and that's fine, but he needs to realize that he can't make the other kids watch a movie with him if none of them want to do so.
  • If your sister doesn't like the way you manage things in your home, she is free to seek after-school childcare elsewhere. It's entitled of her to demand that you cater to her child - one of SEVERAL who are in the home - when you are doing. her a favor. NTA
  • scienceoftophats NTA and May I say how cool it is that you enable all these cousins to be together every day! Brava!
  • Federal-Wolverine-52 NTA. Nobody is excluding your your nephew. He chose to stay inside and watch TV. Tell your sister and her husband to get over it or find another sitter.

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